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THE CASE FOR VIRGINITY
THE CASE FOR VIRGINITY
I am a virgin for myself. I know that having sex is a choice that is not left up to anyone but me to make. I also know that there is so much pressure to make a decision right away when it comes to having sex; and, oftentimes, people make that decision prior to marriage. Women often forget that it is not up to the man to decide when she is ready to give this gift away. It is my gift to give to someone who truly deserves to have it; and in my heart, I know that the person who truly deserves this gift from me is my future husband.
I am a virgin for my future husband. Giving my whole self to him physically is the one thing that no one else in the whole world can give him. It is the one thing that I possess that I will give to him, and it will be for him alone. To me, that is something so beautiful and heartfelt and special. How amazing will it be to give something so unique to someone who will know that no one else in the whole world ever got this gift from me? He will feel so honored. And it is an honor and a feeling that I only want to share with him. It will be perfect. Because it will be something that we will share only with each other for as long as the Lord wills us to live on earth.
But most of all, I am a virgin for my God in heaven. He is my Creator and my Lord. By remaining a virgin until marriage, I am letting Him know that I trust Him and I honor him by respecting His will. His will for me is to wait to have sex until after marriage. And I trust that His will is perfect. Meaning that if I were to wait until after marriage to have sex, because it is His will, that experience will be more amazing and perfect and unlike any other sexual experience that I could have prior to marriage. There’s a reason why He wishes us to wait for marriage; and I know that it is because, in that union, sex will be better than anything I can imagine, because it will be good and right in the sight of God. And anything good in His sight will be blessed by Him; so, I know that it will exceed anything my mind can even imagine about sex now.
--Alexis Williams
Note from Lanny: Brethren, I thought the above article was so wonderfully written that it deserved a wider audience. Therefore, I am reprinting it here. As you can see, it was written by a young lady, who is a virgin herself. And you can tell by reading it that she was raised by godly parents! I wish that every parent would teach these things to their children, and impress upon their minds the importance of doing things God’s way. Sadly, some parents abdicate their responsibility, even to the point of providing birth control to their teens. When you do this, you are NOT helping your kids! You are NOT teaching responsibility by encouraging your kids to have “safe sex.” Instead, you are being very irresponsible, and God will hold you accountable! I will conclude my remarks by adding some pertinent Bible verses on remaining a virgin until you are married (with my comments in parentheses):
“Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman (in an intimate way). Nevertheless, because of (the danger of) sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband… But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. For I wish that all men were even as I myself (i.e., celibate). But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that. But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am (i.e., celibate); but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion” (1Cor.7:1-2,6-9).
“Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God” (Ga.5:19-21).
“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hb.13:4).
--Lanny Smith
